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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: gambian men


I have tried emailing the sender of this item but the email bounced back. Please would Ms West contact me re a programme being created by Radio Scotland about UK/Gambian relationships. Thanks Francis

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I have visited the Gambia for the last four years and have also worked and lived there. In my experience you need to follow your gut feeling and do not follow your heart, I have had two very very bad experiences with Gambian men I met over there, one of whom I have just married recently. On both occasions intuition told me something was not right although it took some time to find this out. I have so many stories I could tell but won't, however, do not rush into anything, do not part with any money, buy cars, compounds until you are 100% sure. As I have always said time will tell and believe me it does. Not all Gambians are bad but beware of those who work in the tourist industry, they are extremely clever and will do and say anything to get what they want. They give genuine Gambians a bad name. I even know of one who prays 5 times a day, does not drink, smoke and follows ramadan but he has been one of the most deceitful I have heard of.They will even take you to meet their families, friends etc. but they are all in on the act. Do not follow your heart, take your time, test him out, if he is lying you will find out the truth sooner than later. I know it is very flattering to get their attention, they are very different to men in the Europe but you will find a lot of them will still adpot their Gambian attitude even when they are in Europe with regards to women and being free to do what they want. Please be careful if you are considering getting involved with a Gambian whether it be in a relationship or just friends,I have heard too many stories and have now certainly learnt my lesson, again I followed my heart - never again, now hopefully he is learing from his mistakes and is seeking forgiveness. I still love the country and would still encourage people to visit but to take care

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thanks for getting back to me.. i have been with this guy for over 1 year and met him here in the uk. i have no insight into gambian men apart from what i have seen whilst with him and articles i have read. he has his mother and aunty here and his father and brothers bak in gambia. he works hard and seems to be a decent person but still i am cautious of the big differences between us. i am european. come from a wealthy background and am 8 years older than him. but despite the differences i do love him but how will iever know if it is ME he loves or a chance to better himself which there is no denying he would be. what should i look out for?.? how can i find out his true reasons f???

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You do not say how long you have been with this gentleman...

First impressions of Gambian men in general are of attentivness and niceness. This is truely I believe in their characters to most extent. But... UK is one place and Gambia is another culturally. Does he have family back home? Women are treated very differently (not unkindly) to what we expect from our men here in UK. Do not rush into anything and make him realise the differences between European womans expectations

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dear lindsey

thanks soo much for getting back to me.. This relationship is sooo hard i am beginning to loose sleep.. i really appreciate your comments as they reflect mine.. I am fully aware of the reputation of gambians as i have seen them with western women in the past and have always been suspicicous about there motives for being with these women. Therefore it is soo suprising that i find myself in the same boat.. I am so unsure of his true true reasons.. I do feel loved and he is very good to me around the house and on an emotional level as well. He is young and came to the uk around 2 years ago and was not part of the tourist/beach thing in the gambia so i don;t think he had much contact with white women in the gambia only since in the uk.. From what i know i am his first proper relationship ( he is only 23) and he does seem to be in love with me however there are of course vast economic differences.. I have my own house, car, business and independance and he works hard but will never be able to reach my level of financial independance ... SHoudl this stop me from loving him?? so far he hasn;t done anything to make me suspicious ( we have been together for 16 months)but i have heard of sooo many gambians who do mess with women for this and that reason that to be quite honest it puts me off!! in fact i don;t like socialising with them as i find them hypocritical so i only socialise with one other gambian who is married to my friend..(she met him in teh gambia).. BUt it is soo hard to know what to do do i wait and see what happens the only thing he is 'getting from me' is that he stays round my house and eats thats it i certainly would not give him any money or anything like that.. but i do worry like you say that they are all in on it GOd what am i to do!!!



would love for you to chat to me some more

where are you?? and why has your last experience ended so badly??

elissa

ps what is your correct email tried to email you but nothing happens

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I have visited the Gambia for the last four years and have also worked and lived there. In my experience you need to follow your gut feeling and do not follow your heart, I have had two very very bad experiences with Gambian men I met over there, one of whom I have just married recently. On both occasions intuition told me something was not right although it took some time to find this out. I have so many stories I could tell but won't, however, do not rush into anything, do not part with any money, buy cars, compounds until you are 100% sure. As I have always said time will tell and believe me it does. Not all Gambians are bad but beware of those who work in the tourist industry, they are extremely clever and will do and say anything to get what they want. They give genuine Gambians a bad name. I even know of one who prays 5 times a day, does not drink, smoke and follows ramadan but he has been one of the most deceitful I have heard of.They will even take you to meet their families, friends etc. but they are all in on the act. Do not follow your heart, take your time, test him out, if he is lying you will find out the truth sooner than later. I know it is very flattering to get their attention, they are very different to men in the Europe but you will find a lot of them will still adpot their Gambian attitude even when they are in Europe with regards to women and being free to do what they want. Please be careful if you are considering getting involved with a Gambian whether it be in a relationship or just friends,I have heard too many stories and have now certainly learnt my lesson, again I followed my heart - never again, now hopefully he is learing from his mistakes and is seeking forgiveness. I still love the country and would still encourage people to visit but to take care

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thanks for getting back to me.. i have been with this guy for over 1 year and met him here in the uk. i have no insight into gambian men apart from what i have seen whilst with him and articles i have read. he has his mother and aunty here and his father and brothers bak in gambia. he works hard and seems to be a decent person but still i am cautious of the big differences between us. i am european. come from a wealthy background and am 8 years older than him. but despite the differences i do love him but how will iever know if it is ME he loves or a chance to better himself which there is no denying he would be. what should i look out for?.? how can i find out his true reasons f???

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You do not say how long you have been with this gentleman...

First impressions of Gambian men in general are of attentivness and niceness. This is truely I believe in their characters to most extent. But... UK is one place and Gambia is another culturally. Does he have family back home? Women are treated very differently (not unkindly) to what we expect from our men here in UK. Do not rush into anything and make him realise the differences between European womans expectations

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unfortunately my hotmail account is no longer active and I can only access this now through the local library. sorry to take so long to get back to you but haven't had access to a computer. If you are happy for me to call you then please let me have your number and I would be willing to talk more then there is far too much information to put on here and is very private. Please get back to me if you would still like to maintain contact.


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dear lindsey

thanks soo much for getting back to me.. This relationship is sooo hard i am beginning to loose sleep.. i really appreciate your comments as they reflect mine.. I am fully aware of the reputation of gambians as i have seen them with western women in the past and have always been suspicicous about there motives for being with these women. Therefore it is soo suprising that i find myself in the same boat.. I am so unsure of his true true reasons.. I do feel loved and he is very good to me around the house and on an emotional level as well. He is young and came to the uk around 2 years ago and was not part of the tourist/beach thing in the gambia so i don;t think he had much contact with white women in the gambia only since in the uk.. From what i know i am his first proper relationship ( he is only 23) and he does seem to be in love with me however there are of course vast economic differences.. I have my own house, car, business and independance and he works hard but will never be able to reach my level of financial independance ... SHoudl this stop me from loving him?? so far he hasn;t done anything to make me suspicious ( we have been together for 16 months)but i have heard of sooo many gambians who do mess with women for this and that reason that to be quite honest it puts me off!! in fact i don;t like socialising with them as i find them hypocritical so i only socialise with one other gambian who is married to my friend..(she met him in teh gambia).. BUt it is soo hard to know what to do do i wait and see what happens the only thing he is 'getting from me' is that he stays round my house and eats thats it i certainly would not give him any money or anything like that.. but i do worry like you say that they are all in on it GOd what am i to do!!!



would love for you to chat to me some more

where are you?? and why has your last experience ended so badly??

elissa

ps what is your correct email tried to email you but nothing happens

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I have visited the Gambia for the last four years and have also worked and lived there. In my experience you need to follow your gut feeling and do not follow your heart, I have had two very very bad experiences with Gambian men I met over there, one of whom I have just married recently. On both occasions intuition told me something was not right although it took some time to find this out. I have so many stories I could tell but won't, however, do not rush into anything, do not part with any money, buy cars, compounds until you are 100% sure. As I have always said time will tell and believe me it does. Not all Gambians are bad but beware of those who work in the tourist industry, they are extremely clever and will do and say anything to get what they want. They give genuine Gambians a bad name. I even know of one who prays 5 times a day, does not drink, smoke and follows ramadan but he has been one of the most deceitful I have heard of.They will even take you to meet their families, friends etc. but they are all in on the act. Do not follow your heart, take your time, test him out, if he is lying you will find out the truth sooner than later. I know it is very flattering to get their attention, they are very different to men in the Europe but you will find a lot of them will still adpot their Gambian attitude even when they are in Europe with regards to women and being free to do what they want. Please be careful if you are considering getting involved with a Gambian whether it be in a relationship or just friends,I have heard too many stories and have now certainly learnt my lesson, again I followed my heart - never again, now hopefully he is learing from his mistakes and is seeking forgiveness. I still love the country and would still encourage people to visit but to take care

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thanks for getting back to me.. i have been with this guy for over 1 year and met him here in the uk. i have no insight into gambian men apart from what i have seen whilst with him and articles i have read. he has his mother and aunty here and his father and brothers bak in gambia. he works hard and seems to be a decent person but still i am cautious of the big differences between us. i am european. come from a wealthy background and am 8 years older than him. but despite the differences i do love him but how will iever know if it is ME he loves or a chance to better himself which there is no denying he would be. what should i look out for?.? how can i find out his true reasons f???

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You do not say how long you have been with this gentleman...

First impressions of Gambian men in general are of attentivness and niceness. This is truely I believe in their characters to most extent. But... UK is one place and Gambia is another culturally. Does he have family back home? Women are treated very differently (not unkindly) to what we expect from our men here in UK. Do not rush into anything and make him realise the differences between European womans expectations

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hi lindsay yes it would be good to speak to you my no is 07932670640 look forward to it

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unfortunately my hotmail account is no longer active and I can only access this now through the local library. sorry to take so long to get back to you but haven't had access to a computer. If you are happy for me to call you then please let me have your number and I would be willing to talk more then there is far too much information to put on here and is very private. Please get back to me if you would still like to maintain contact.


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dear lindsey

thanks soo much for getting back to me.. This relationship is sooo hard i am beginning to loose sleep.. i really appreciate your comments as they reflect mine.. I am fully aware of the reputation of gambians as i have seen them with western women in the past and have always been suspicicous about there motives for being with these women. Therefore it is soo suprising that i find myself in the same boat.. I am so unsure of his true true reasons.. I do feel loved and he is very good to me around the house and on an emotional level as well. He is young and came to the uk around 2 years ago and was not part of the tourist/beach thing in the gambia so i don;t think he had much contact with white women in the gambia only since in the uk.. From what i know i am his first proper relationship ( he is only 23) and he does seem to be in love with me however there are of course vast economic differences.. I have my own house, car, business and independance and he works hard but will never be able to reach my level of financial independance ... SHoudl this stop me from loving him?? so far he hasn;t done anything to make me suspicious ( we have been together for 16 months)but i have heard of sooo many gambians who do mess with women for this and that reason that to be quite honest it puts me off!! in fact i don;t like socialising with them as i find them hypocritical so i only socialise with one other gambian who is married to my friend..(she met him in teh gambia).. BUt it is soo hard to know what to do do i wait and see what happens the only thing he is 'getting from me' is that he stays round my house and eats thats it i certainly would not give him any money or anything like that.. but i do worry like you say that they are all in on it GOd what am i to do!!!



would love for you to chat to me some more

where are you?? and why has your last experience ended so badly??

elissa

ps what is your correct email tried to email you but nothing happens

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Replying to:


I have visited the Gambia for the last four years and have also worked and lived there. In my experience you need to follow your gut feeling and do not follow your heart, I have had two very very bad experiences with Gambian men I met over there, one of whom I have just married recently. On both occasions intuition told me something was not right although it took some time to find this out. I have so many stories I could tell but won't, however, do not rush into anything, do not part with any money, buy cars, compounds until you are 100% sure. As I have always said time will tell and believe me it does. Not all Gambians are bad but beware of those who work in the tourist industry, they are extremely clever and will do and say anything to get what they want. They give genuine Gambians a bad name. I even know of one who prays 5 times a day, does not drink, smoke and follows ramadan but he has been one of the most deceitful I have heard of.They will even take you to meet their families, friends etc. but they are all in on the act. Do not follow your heart, take your time, test him out, if he is lying you will find out the truth sooner than later. I know it is very flattering to get their attention, they are very different to men in the Europe but you will find a lot of them will still adpot their Gambian attitude even when they are in Europe with regards to women and being free to do what they want. Please be careful if you are considering getting involved with a Gambian whether it be in a relationship or just friends,I have heard too many stories and have now certainly learnt my lesson, again I followed my heart - never again, now hopefully he is learing from his mistakes and is seeking forgiveness. I still love the country and would still encourage people to visit but to take care

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thanks for getting back to me.. i have been with this guy for over 1 year and met him here in the uk. i have no insight into gambian men apart from what i have seen whilst with him and articles i have read. he has his mother and aunty here and his father and brothers bak in gambia. he works hard and seems to be a decent person but still i am cautious of the big differences between us. i am european. come from a wealthy background and am 8 years older than him. but despite the differences i do love him but how will iever know if it is ME he loves or a chance to better himself which there is no denying he would be. what should i look out for?.? how can i find out his true reasons f???

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You do not say how long you have been with this gentleman...

First impressions of Gambian men in general are of attentivness and niceness. This is truely I believe in their characters to most extent. But... UK is one place and Gambia is another culturally. Does he have family back home? Women are treated very differently (not unkindly) to what we expect from our men here in UK. Do not rush into anything and make him realise the differences between European womans expectations

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how can i be sure a guy is genuine??? in the love he says he has for me??
Can you respond